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How does this translate to parenting? Simple: it makes you an agreeable and active participant, especially when it involves imaginative activities proposed by creative toddlers.
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Ryan Gaul, a veteran performer with The Groundlings and actor who has appeared in such series as “Bajillion Dollar Propertie$,” “Superstore,” and “House of Lies” seconds Moe’s notion. And he adds that the “yes, and” approach has helped him form deeper bonds with his two sons, seven and four. “My 7 year old at one point asked me if I would marry him, and my first thought was to explain to him, well, there are several roadblocks here,” he recalls. “But instead I just went with it and I was like, ‘Yes! We can get married, we can totally get married, we’ll figure it out.'”
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